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September, 2012

  1. No Trust Plus No Respect Means Unhappy Employees

    September 28, 2012 by Lady Unemployed

    JJ's Melt Nana's Heart and Pick Me Up Face

    Over the last few weeks, my present job got worse. Much worse. Remember my moment of speaking up? Well, it turned out to be an greater bad idea.

    Right after all of this happened, and I let the flames die down of the awful written attacks I got from my coworker, it didn’t really ever ease up. Over the past few weeks, I have suddenly been required to send an “end of day” report that lists out the details of the work I’ve done all day. Each day. Every day. To the coworker I didn’t like (and I checked with my manager, she approved it).

    You know what this means?

    Each morning I stress over whether or not I will receive a lecture from her about a mistake of mine she found. And she has done just that nearly everyday.

    I can’t work in an environment where not only do I not like the work, but I also do not like who I’m working around and I’m not receiving respect. Plus, I have to list out what I do each day, which I have never had to do in any previous position!

    So, yes, I’m unhappy at this job.

    But between you, me and the blogosphere…there is hope around the corner…but I’ll save that post for another day.


  2. Don’t Communicate By Messenger Pigeon At Work

    September 14, 2012 by Lady Unemployed

    Following up on my post yesterday…

    So, I found out that my manager did speak with my troubling coworker. And the issue is sort of resolved. Except now, of course, I feel burned and I do know to watch out for things like this in the future from this person.

    I did learn a valuable lesson, though:

    Refrain from making email your first point of contact!

    All of this could have been avoided if my coworker had just turned her head to the right and spoken to me out loud.

    Seriously, email should not be your first attempt at communication. So much can be misread in an email. It’s a little like sending a messenger pigeon that craps in the recipients hand.

    If you are in a situation where you are providing instruction, or giving feedback, or talking about something that may be a touchy subject for some reason, don’t communicate by email first. Especially if you have another method of communication where the message can be heard in the way it is meant to be received.

    ESPECIALLY when the person is in the same room with you and you can communicate face to face.

    And I am exhausted.

    All I have to say is…I am so freaking glad it’s the weekend.

  3. I’m Sick of Building Character

    September 13, 2012 by Lady Unemployed

    So that work situation I blogged about earlier this week got worse. Much worse.

    It turns out my little bout of standing up for myself turned into a mini tornado of work issues, written attacks (or what I viewed as attacks; remember perception is reality), and a laundry list of my mistakes that apparently have been tallied by my tormenting coworker.

    I am proud of myself though because I kept my cool. My knee jerk reaction was to retaliate and revolt against the unnecessary disrespect. And I’m glad I didn’t do that. It would have made the situation worse. I did, however, bring management into it.

    Whether or not it gets better…well I’ll find out today.

    The reality is though…I don’t want to deal with this situation. I really don’t. It’s exhausting to put my energy into this.

    But I’m sticking with it…I’m certain there is a lesson to be learned. It builds character.


    I mean, learning lessons are good. I’m certain a few years from now I’ll be glad I stuck with it.


    Anyone else get sick of building character?

  4. The Importance of Standing Up for Yourself

    September 11, 2012 by Lady Unemployed

    Alright so today at work, I stumbled across a snarky power play by a coworker, and I felt strong enough to address it. And I can’t even describe how proud I am that I did.

    Initially when writing this post, I wrote out the moment play by play, but I decided to erase that and avoid the nitty gritty details. But what I can say about it is that I stood up for myself tactfully, politely, and without emotion (huge HUGE step for me). It was in response to something that I took to be an unnecessary power play and I wanted the other person to know they can’t treat me that way.

    Initially, I thought there was a chance I was making something out of nothing, but I have a rule that when I am wondering whether nothing is something, it’s usually something. And I go from there.

    I am so proud of myself and I wanted to let you know that if you ever feel uncertain about standing up for yourself, or wondering whether you will come across too sensitive. Or your worried that you won’t say it right. Or hell, even if you are worried you might cry. Don’t worry about those things. You aren’t too sensitive. And you should stand up for yourself. And you know what? Even if it isn’t said the “right” way, what matters is that you cared enough about yourself to stand up for what you believe is right. And if you cry, that’s okay. I’ve cried during those moments too. And trust me, you will regret more that you didn’t say anything at all, than regret speaking up.

    Something my mom has always told me that has stuck with me my whole life is, “You are here and you matter.”

    So, readers, remember – you matter.

  5. An Idea for

    September 8, 2012 by Lady Unemployed

    So, I thought I would pose this question to my readers. Especially because you guys are a huge reason I’ve been keeping this up, even after I’ve been employed.

    As you know, I’ve been really hesitant to blog about my job. I don’t want to get trouble and anything else I blog about seems false and doesn’t really apply to my subject.

    And then, I had an idea. It was inspired by one of my faithful readers and followers on Twitter.

    ….okay, I can’t embed the tweet for some reason, but the comment was from Lady J. Wanderlust over on Twitter (check out her blog here) And she said how cool it was that I’m now “Lady Employed,” representing a new demographic.

    A few weeks later…light bulb!

    See? Look:

    Light My Path

    And I came up with these new blog ideas:

    -Invite women (or invite to women guest post) who run their own business, consulting work, started a business on the side, make money blogging, generate passive income, have an Etsy shop, etc., to talk about their experiences and give advice on how the rest of us can generate income and grow a business as well.

    – Tips on where you can find free stuff for your blog to review, blog communities that help promote your work, affiliate programs, etc. Most exclusive to female bloggers, but some non gender specific (for my male readers!)

    – Where you can find free stuff and contests to enter (really, I’m obsessed with these things and I’ve gotten pretty good at it and I’d love to share this with you)

    As well as my usual humorous self on top of all of this.

    So, what do you think? Would this interest you or would I lose you as a reader? And be honest!