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October, 2012

  1. Am I Just Restless?

    October 30, 2012 by Lady Unemployed


    So, I have been at my present job for three months now. And yes, I’m still not enjoying it. And yes, that coworker I had problems with before, is still giving me problems.

    Is it just me being restless, though? I can’t help but wonder that.

    I would like things to feel like they are moving forward for me, but I just don’t feel that way at the job I have now. I don’t feel a part of the work atmosphere and I don’t like what I do. I barely like some of the people I work around.

    What do you do when you feel restless and you just don’t know what to do about it?


  2. How I Got Out Of My Office Halloween Party

    October 19, 2012 by Lady Unemployed

    Women at office holiday party, 1962

    So, I’m still at the job I’ve been blogging about over the past few weeks and I still have mixed feelings about everything. But, lately, they’ve been promoting their annual after work Halloween party. There will be drinks, fun, and a costume contest. Sounds fun, right????

    Yah, definitely not my thing.

    Definitely, definitely. not. my thing.

    So, how did I get out of it?

    Well, first of all, I’ve never enjoyed work parties. Especially when alcohol is involved. (Loose lips, sink ships?) And second of all, I’ve not felt entirely welcome at this new place. Plus, this isn’t the very first time I’ve tried thinking up reasons to avoid work related social functions.

    And you know what I said?

    The truth. A manager running the party emailed me about why I wasn’t going, and I just said one simple thing: “I’m sorry to miss it, but to be honest, I’m just not comfortable with these types of things.” I didn’t make up a silly excuse that I don’t really have. I won’t be sick that night. And I didn’t have any pre-made plans.

    I’m just not comfortable.

    And it felt damn good to just be honest like that.

    Well, it holds up well enough on email, anyway. I’ll let you know how my “in-person” confronters respond to my honesty.

    How do you handle work functions? Do you enjoy them? Or are you like me and squirm at the idea of spending that much time with your coworkers?


  3. Trust People The First Time

    October 13, 2012 by Lady Unemployed


    So…unfortunately, my good news from last week fell through. And I’m still at the job I complained about a few weeks ago.

    How did this happen?

    Well, several weeks ago, I heard from a former coworker who asked me if I was still looking for a job. Thinking about my present job situation (and my dislike for it), I told him that I was open to this new position. He gave me the email of the person hiring and I sent them my resume.

    …and then I heard back from them and she asked me about setting up an interview! Yay, right?

    Hmm…sort of, yay. Because then I asked about pay. No, this isn’t something I would usually do if I wasn’t already employed, but I felt like I had the right to know and I wasn’t so desperate that I wanted the drop in salary.

    And when I pushed the issue, she said, “I’ll pass.”

    I’ll pass? Are you kidding me??

    Thinking I had avoided quite the difficult employer, I was relieved, albeit a tad disappointed for the missed opportunity.

    And then a couple of weeks after that…I heard from her again. She actually called me and explained herself. She apologized for the brush off, but said that she usually liked meeting someone before agreeing to a salary. She asked me if I could meet with her for an after work coffee to discuss the position and then if we both think it’s a right fit, she could agree to my salary requirement.

    And I agreed. I thought it was pretty cool she was upfront and wanted to pursue it.

    Well, we met and at first, I was very impressed. She was an upfront lady and took chances on people. She explained she hired a guy with cerebral palsy, hired another person with commitment issues, and now she was considering hiring me (which made me wonder what my ailment was). I felt so sure of this! When we parted, we set up a time when I could meet with the team and get a bigger picture of the company.

    The thing is though I had to take the next week off. I had a family emergency to take care off (yup, a real one, hence my blog absence!) and told her when I got back I’d be able to start. She said okay at first, but that I would still meet with her team that Friday to confirm everything. She would email me the details that night.

    A day goes by.

    And then another (I’m getting concerned by this point).

    So I email her about Friday and then she sends me this:

    “Thanks for the follow up.
    Sorry to say, I did hire someone yesterday and she is available to start tomorrow.”

    What the hell is that??? I got burned twice by that woman! So the lesson here is:

    Believe people the first time.

    The second she told me, “I’LL PASS,” I should have steered clear. And now I’m back at square one at a job I am unhappy at. Although the good thing is there is a new guy starting Monday and my hope is that he is tall, good looking, single, and interested in me. Heh heh…