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July, 2013

  1. Do You Work For the Chronic Malcontent

    July 31, 2013 by Lady Unemployed

    The funny thing is I didn’t make up this word out of the clear blue sky. My mom has just finished the book “The Sociopath Next Door,” by Martha Stout, PhD and she shared that word with me. When she did, I realized I work for a “chronic malcontent.”

    In layman’s terms, it means just what you think it means: someone who constantly spreads their negativity around, complains too much, and never is satisfied.

    Lately I have been helping a senior person in my department more and more. Well, until recently that is. Up until a few weeks ago, it seemed to go okay. Then, I made a mistake. And since then, this person picks at the tiniest details and never responds to me pleasantly. All because of a small mistake. And this isn’t just my perception, I have made worse mistakes there and she never reacted like this.

    This person is notorious at my job. I’ve been told it has been two years since they have had someone assist them. The person who helped her before me told me this lady I’m helping is highly intolerant for mistakes and is very difficult to work for (and around). What makes it difficult is that she works from home, refuses to call me and has now required I redo training that I had done months ago.

    Now, I’m in a quandary because I not only have had job duties taken away from me that I once had before, I have also been told to hold off how much I communicate to this person (to stave off their ever growing, never dying temper).

    I’m at a crossroads at my job. My role has become lateral and there is no foreseeable growth in my career at this job, not for another year, at least.

    In many situations I would speak up. Here’s the thing, though…

    …I don’t like my job. I don’t like who I work for, I don’t like what I do, and I don’t have much respect for the company. Not to mention, I have found time and time again that my supervisor has not been supportive of these type of issues and often refers me to ask a coworker for help who I find to be spineless and only offers suggestions on how I can avoid conflict not handle it directly.

    At this point, no matter what I do for this person (as I’ve been struggling to walk this very fine line to please her) that she refuses to be pleased with my work. The tragic thing is that she has much more seniority than me and push come to shove, my job would be on the line way before hers.

    So, how do you handle working around the chronic malcontent?


  2. Some Good News!

    July 23, 2013 by Lady Unemployed

    I’m happy to announce that this past weekend my older brother found a job! After being unemployed a year and a half, he has found a job. He just had his first day of work the other day and I can’t tell you how proud I am of him.

    He is truly an inspiration as he never lost hope, kept trying and went for every opportunity and helping hand he could get. He reminds me to keep striving forward and to keep your hope alive no matter how tough it may seem. The past couple of months he even stayed in a shelter after moving to a new city with a better economy). Even then, he never quit trying. Not once.

    I hope everyone out there looking for work keeps on keeping on. It’s worth it and my brother is proof that you can find your way out of a bad period of time. You just have to keep going.

  3. Why The Poor Stay Poor (And My 29 Cent Raise)

    July 22, 2013 by Lady Unemployed

    Today my company gave out raises.

    I didn’t have much expectations for what I would receive as my starting salary was low and when that’s the case, I usually assume a company is pretty cheap. Not to mention they didn’t hand out a Christmas bonus, thank you card, or pat on the back of any kind this past winter, so I’d say calling my company cheap is a pretty safe bet.

    Ladies and gentleman…

    I received a 29 cent raise. A 2% raise or so I’m told.

    When the HR Manager told me the amount of increase I received this year, I gritted my teeth, smiled, said okay, and went back to my desk. Alone at my desk, I laughed quietly.

    If there is any chance of decreasing the gap between the rich and the poor, helping college students pay off debt after they graduate, improve the overall likelihood of people buying homes, cars and various non-necessities that seem to keep our economy afloat, I think there needs to be a little bit more handed out than 29 cent raises and 12 to 14 bucks an hour starting wages.

    Or like a friend of mine told me today, I am lucky to have a job. And I am. But some days that isn’t enough.

    Meanwhile, I’m taking the bus home tonight and I’ll be sure to save that extra 29 cents in my piggy bank.


  4. Monday Rant – What’s Your Gripe Today?

    July 7, 2013 by Lady Unemployed

  5. I’m Beginning to Feel Like Milton from Office Space

    July 4, 2013 by Lady Unemployed

    Just give me a red stapler and move my desk to the basement.

    I’m being ignored at work.. Really, really ignored. They moved my desk and I’m sitting near two managers and near two people who aren’t in my department.  As for the rest of the people in my department, they are on the other side of the room. What is so tormenting is that there are conversations going on around me, but I’m not included. I know, I know, I could make an effort to talk to my coworkers and I try, but there is only so many times where I start feeling very stupid for trying to connect with them.

    I have never experienced this type of isolation at work before. In honor of this new founded isolation, I kept track of the sentences I spoke at work yesterday.

    Ladies and gentleman, this is what I spoke out loud at work on July 3rd:


    “Oh, I’ll switch places with you.”


    “Do we still have that meeting today?”

    “Yup, just dealing with paperwork over here.”

    Fascinating, isn’t it?

  6. Monday Rant – What’s Your Gripe Today?

    July 1, 2013 by Lady Unemployed

    365.034 Tired and Frustrated

    Well, my time of covering someone’s desk wasn’t nearly as awful as I thought it would be. I don’t know about you though, but my city is dealing with a heat wave and this type of weather makes me straight up miserable. I don’t want to do anything but sit and wait for it to be over – it doesn’t help I don’t have air conditioning.

    Anyways, I may have some interesting news – I might be moving soon! Not too far away actually but far enough that I may have to quit my job. To be honest, I’m not too sad about that. I’ve been having bouts of sadness there I just can’t shake. Not to mention I struggle a lot with being ignored there constantly.

    Well, onto the rant! I hope your day isn’t too bad today, and luckily I have a four day weekend coming up! Yay!

    So what is your gripe today? Is it too hot for you too? Did someone act rude? Are you having rotten luck? I want to hear about it – whatever your gripe may be – let’s bitch and moan together.

  7. Does Lack of Software Skills Reduce Your Chances for Employment?

    July 1, 2013 by Lady Unemployed


    How I Feel When Taking Software Classes

    I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately. Because I wonder how many job seekers want to apply for a job, but tragically –


    You know that sentence is like farting in an elevator. It can just ruin a hopeful feeling you have about a job.

    The thing is how exactly do you gain software skills? Sure, I know, go take a class. But the truth is, in my particular area I’m living there isn’t a lot of opportunities to take classes. There is a community college nearby, but here are the two options I have found:

    • Take a class that is a “noncredit” option (YAY) that only has class times in the middle of the day (BOO!) and I work for an employer who has low patience for me taking time off (BOO!)
    • Take a credit class (BOO!) that costs way too much (BOO! And yes, right now, $300 for a software class is a lot for me). I also don’t learn software well when it’s an online format. If I’m taking an online class on how to use a software, I may as well learn from a book which would cost less, but I don’t learn software from just a book.

    My mom, who is looking for work right now, is coming across the same thing. Jobs that require software skills and those software skills aren’t easy to come by. I also have some trepidation about taking a class in general, because unless it is something I will use regularly, how will I come to feel like I really know it?

    Take excel for example. I don’t have any reason to use it at my current job. Sure, I open excel files during the day, but I don’t create charts and use the formulas in excel. I have no reason for that. So if I take a class on excel, when will I use it during the day? If you don’t use it, don’t you lose it?

    I’d love to know Adobe Photoshop. Yet, unless I’m using it at work, or have it at home, how much of that class will I retain? Not to mention how expensive it actually is to buy that software (again, the no extra money thing is holding me back lately).

    Anyways, ranting aside, how do you increase your software skills to be eligible for more opportunities? Is it as simple as taking a class? How have you gained those skills?