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Ahhh! Help! I’m Still Single!!!

July 17, 2012 by Lady Unemployed

Why is it when you have one problem going on in your life, other problems arise and seem to shine just a bit brighter?


The brightening problem of singlehood.

Like I’ve said before, I’m single. And at the ripe age of 25, this means that I get to see a ton of Facebook status updates on marriages, engagements, weddings and new babies from the people I went to high school with. And lately, I find this slightly depressing.

Over the past few years, I’ve dated and had sort-of-getting-off-the-ground relationships, but nothing that went anywhere.  Although I would love to be dating a great guy right now, so far that doesn’t seem to be in the stars.And since I am not employed right now, I don’t feel like it’s a very good selling point to say, “Hi, I’m Evelyn (my name isn’t really Evelyn, but for my blog’s anonymity sake, I’m Evelyn). Hi, I’m Evelyn, and I’m unemployed. This means you get to pay for dinner, movie, and anything else that we decide to go out and do together.”

Although that is a general expectation even if I was working right now, I have been out with cheap guys and I like to know I have extra cash in case I come across this type.


Back to the single thing.

Don't Panic Badge

My reminder.

Right now when I wake up to the panic of seeing my left hand sans wedding ring, I keep telling myself that my priority right now is finding a job. Worry about the other stuff later. Find a job first. Man later. Job. Man. Job. Man.


My actual left hand. Without a wedding ring.

Or unless you are anything like my assh*le friend from last week, the man should come first. And then the job. But no, right now, for me, it’s the reverse. Job. Then a man (and not just any man either. I’m not the desperate type. Which may or may not be my problem. But let’s focus. Job first, people).

Until one or the other gets fixed for me, I plan on staying away from Facebook.



  1. Hi, I’m a new reader. Definitely, job first and then a man! You’re sensible that you realize this. Wish you all the best! And, seriously, 25 is not old AT ALL!! I got married when I was 28!

  2. Justin says:

    25 and single isn’t bad at all! It gives you more time to find…you. People lose theirselves when they find love too long.

  3. Melissa says:

    Hi there!

    Just came across your blog and it was like I could have written it myself … I have been debating getting rid of my Facebook account for months now because whenever I log on I am instantly depressed …

    So-and-so went on this fancy schmancy holiday with her boyfriend and they got engaged; and this girl who was a pretty big bitch in high school, well she just popped out baby number 2 with her lawyer husband …

    And then I get days when I log on and there, betweeen the professional engagement photo shoots (since when did that become a thing?) and photos of tiny Trevor sucking his thumb comes a little hint that maybe life is not as perfect as people on Facebook would have us believe.

    X is no longer Married. X is now divorced.

    I might be 26 and single, but at least I am not 26 and divorced … (yet)!

    Thanks for this post and good luck with the job hunt!

    • Oh too perfect!! I know exactly how that is. It’s like I have a “friend” on Facebook who was posting braggart posts for so long and suddenly she stopped. I really really hope this means her perfect life ain’t so perfect. (is that awful or what?)

      But like you said, it is better to be single and 20 something than divorced and 20 something. Thank you so much for commenting! It’s awesome to see I’m not alone!

  4. Madison says:

    Oh man, I agree completely. I have always said since I was in high school I want to know I can support myself and live on my own and really learn more about me BEFORE I get married. And besides, 25 is not old.

    Also, thanks for the comment, I followed your blog now. And fixed mine. I threw it together one night thinking I should probably record my life right now and didn’t get to play around much. Thanks for stopping by though!

  5. Kristen says:

    I hate saying this because it seems so cliche, but I’ve been there, done that and it’s OK. I am literally and truthfully the only one from my group of friends from high school who isn’t married with two or three kids. Sometimes I would start to wonder what was wrong with me.

    Then, I decided I didn’t really care one way or another if or when I married. If I became the crazy cat lady, oh well! I was single for 5 years before I met my fiance.

    I’m 29 now, but technically, I’ll be 30 when we marry. And I’m completely fine with that. 🙂

  6. Cas says:

    I love this post! My parents divorced when I was really little, and my mother became the sole provider for me and my three sisters. She taught us to always put our own wellbeings first. Divorce rates are so high nowadays that waiting to settle down is a great idea! We’re in no rush! When I get married it will be my only marriage, so I’m going to make sure it’s to the right man.

    • Woo!! A kindred spirit!! Same reasons here too. My mom is a single mom and she taught me to take care of myself and know ME first! And then do the marriage thing. And with divorce rates as high as they are like you said, it is very good to be able to take care of yourself!

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