So, I found out that my manager did speak with my troubling coworker. And the issue is sort of resolved. Except now, of course, I feel burned and I do know to watch out for things like this in the future from this person.
I did learn a valuable lesson, though:
Refrain from making email your first point of contact!
All of this could have been avoided if my coworker had just turned her head to the right and spoken to me out loud.
Seriously, email should not be your first attempt at communication. So much can be misread in an email. It’s a little like sending a messenger pigeon that craps in the recipients hand.
If you are in a situation where you are providing instruction, or giving feedback, or talking about something that may be a touchy subject for some reason, don’t communicate by email first. Especially if you have another method of communication where the message can be heard in the way it is meant to be received.
ESPECIALLY when the person is in the same room with you and you can communicate face to face.
And I am exhausted.
All I have to say is…I am so freaking glad it’s the weekend.