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How I Got Out Of My Office Halloween Party

October 19, 2012 by Lady Unemployed

Women at office holiday party, 1962

So, I’m still at the job I’ve been blogging about over the past few weeks and I still have mixed feelings about everything. But, lately, they’ve been promoting their annual after work Halloween party. There will be drinks, fun, and a costume contest. Sounds fun, right????

Yah, definitely not my thing.

Definitely, definitely. not. my thing.

So, how did I get out of it?

Well, first of all, I’ve never enjoyed work parties. Especially when alcohol is involved. (Loose lips, sink ships?) And second of all, I’ve not felt entirely welcome at this new place. Plus, this isn’t the very first time I’ve tried thinking up reasons to avoid work related social functions.

And you know what I said?

The truth. A manager running the party emailed me about why I wasn’t going, and I just said one simple thing: “I’m sorry to miss it, but to be honest, I’m just not comfortable with these types of things.” I didn’t make up a silly excuse that I don’t really have. I won’t be sick that night. And I didn’t have any pre-made plans.

I’m just not comfortable.

And it felt damn good to just be honest like that.

Well, it holds up well enough on email, anyway. I’ll let you know how my “in-person” confronters respond to my honesty.

How do you handle work functions? Do you enjoy them? Or are you like me and squirm at the idea of spending that much time with your coworkers?


  1. Hannah says:

    I was actually fortunate enough to love the people at my last job (until I was let go and lied to).

    After-work parties were really fun, and we all got along really well. It helped that we weren’t a traditional office, and that my boss was only 1 or 2 years older than me, and that his girlfriend who worked in the office was my same age. Oh, and that my boyfriend worked there as well. Yeah, did I mention that we weren’t your typical marketing department? 🙂

    I think it was great that you were honest. Hope it all works out for you! And that you have a fun Halloween anyway!

  2. Wow what a bummer, I can’t imagine working somewhere I didn’t want to attend the office parties… socialization at work is so important now that I’m out of college and my friends are scattered across the country! Sure there are coworkers I’d rather not hang around with, but usually I enjoy most of the people in the office so the parties are fun to me.

  3. Susan Cooper says:

    Company after work parties can be a dangerous thing for some. I attended one for a brief moment only to make an appearance. I missed all the fun. An investigation insued after for inappropriate behavior by my colleagues, some were fired, some were suspended, some were given a strong warning. I was given a pat on the back for my good since. Alcohol and company parties DONOT mix well. 🙂

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