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Learn to Choose Your Battles at Work

January 16, 2013 by Lady Unemployed

This lesson is a tough one for me.

I struggle with being a people pleaser, so whenever I ignore a wrongdoing (even if it is just me believing it), I feel like that is one step backwards away from my personal growth. Yet, this struggle is why I can be (between you and me) a bit difficult to work with at times.


Yesterday at work there was an instance where I felt certain that I was getting blamed for a mistake I know I didn’t do. It was only partially my fault, at least. The other person just never responded to me (I do feel I needed to follow through but didn’t). Yet, the other person who never responded was the one who pointed fingers. Worse yet, I was told my “mistake” by my difficult coworker. So I had no chance of explaining my perception and what happened to anyone who was actually involved. Worse is the fact the person who was involved, was out that day I was told.

So what do I do?

If I ignore it, I feel like that is giving them permission to continue blaming me for their mistakes and for them to make mine an even bigger deal, as a result. If I say something, now that a day has gone by, it’s suddenly an issue. It’s become more than a mistake, because I’m suddenly a difficult person who won’t accept it when they’ve done wrong.

So I’ve chosen my battle. I will let it go. It isn’t my favorite thing to do, but…I think choosing your battles at work is the key to maintaining your sanity.

What do you think? How do you know which battles to take on?


  1. Suzie Carr says:

    It’s so important to choose our battles wisely. The ones that I choose to take on typically are the ones that affect more than just me. If others are being bullied or hurt by the actions of others, I feel compelled to act. I think how we act in times like this is also important to analyze. Acting defensively only increases the tension. Ideally, if we can go into a situation with a win-win mentality, everyone benefits and problems have a higher chance of being solved.

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