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  1. An Update from Lady Unemployed

    September 8, 2016 by Lady Unemployed

    It’s been a while hasn’t it? Well, things have been up and down this year, lots of down. I feel weird posting about this, but I filed bankruptcy a couple of months ago. It’s made the last couple of months very hard and it will be hard untl at least mid-October until I pay down court fees.

    I have mixed feelings about the process and the results. I understand why the debt happened and I plan on never letting it happen again. That’s the major takeaway.

    I’m still at the job I have before, still struggling with my new seating arrangement (ha), and still hoping I can one day get enough creative energy to get myself published.

    But enough of that. How are you?

    I do have one thing to share though that more posts will be coming. I realized that many submitted posts were pending and I apologize about that for anyone who have submitted to my blog. I have them scheduled through now until the end of September.

    I’ve gone back to the old system of people emailing me their posts. The reason for this is that I feel like it’s less impersonal for me to see the posts in the submitted area. I do like talking to people who share me their story. I hope you don’t mind the change.

    Where will this blog go? Not sure exactly. It’s still here and so am I. Funny thing is, as long as I get unemployment stories. I will feel the need to leave the site up. Until then, I’m hoping that I will have more for you soon.

  2. Mature Unemploymentista Finally Gets Job

    September 8, 2016 by Lady Unemployed

    Last week it finally happened. After being a “professional unemployee” for way too long – maybe 18 months? – a past employer telephoned me and offered me a job. Wow!  And, even though, as a  lady “of a certain age”  I’m somewhat disillusioned and war-torn – after jobseeking for such a long time (my survival was my blog “50 Shades of Unemployment”),  the job offer has given me a confidence boost …And I suddenly feel like I’m part of the human race again …. make that, “rat-race”.

    I worked at the same organization, three years ago, when I was taken on to fill in for someone going on extended holidays in Europe. Back then, the boss had said she’d  like to keep me on, after my colleague returned. However, as is the usual case, funding ran out, and so my joblessness began.

    When I returned to the organization this week, it was like GroundHog Day. And sadly, only three familiar faces remain, from my initial 2010 stint. They are the lucky employees who survived the staffing cuts, and associated stresses. They’re also the ones with the healthy bank balances. And, they also know where the bodies are buried. Of course, I know not to mention these, and not to get caught up in the office politics.

    So I’m not going to jump for joy – even though I feel like doing that – as I know things could change there any day, and I live with the reality that I could be given the flick at any moment. Meantime, my period of joblessness, has shown me that I can survive without a job, and that I’ m still a valuable part of the community ….even when some politicians suggest otherwise.




  3. Lesson of the Week – I Need More Mental Health Days.

    July 20, 2016 by Lady Unemployed


    I tend to not take many mental health days. This year I think I’ve taken maybe one or two. But in reality, as I learned the hard way yesterday, they are necessary part of adult working life. At least, that’s what I think.

    So, not to overshare, but I am going through the process of taking care of my financial situation. I’ll divulge more another time, but it’s stressing me out significantly and I spent the good majority of my past weekend dealing with it. It didn’t help yesterday I ran across an extremely rude person who is supposed to be helpful in this whole process and she just crumpled me yesterday emotionally as a result. Sad to say I was dealing with this at work.

    After the call, I went back to my desk thinking I was fine, until a couple of hours later,  a coworker informed me about a mistake I made. When I tried to fix it, I made ANOTHER mistake to fix the previous mistake. Well, I ended up in tears during my lunch hour over everything that happened. I knew then that I should go home. I told my boss – again, in tears – that I needed to go home, I wasn’t feeling well. She said it was fine and I left.

    Now today I am feeling more refreshed. Stressed still, but refreshed. I think I need to do better about checking in with myself about how I’m doing. If I had clued in, maybe I have known to take Monday as a mental health day rather than letting the stress build.

    Overall, though, I think mental health days are important. I do have a hard time with it though. The whole premise seems to be gone on so many of my fellow coworkers (i.e. those who NEVER take sick days) and so I worry about how it looks sometimes. Not to mention the whole thing of “do I really want to use my precious dwindling PTO hours for this?”

    But sometimes I need to do what’s right for me, and not worry so much about what other people are doing.

  4. They Moved My Desk at Work (And Why I Don’t Like It)

    May 31, 2016 by Lady Unemployed


    So last week, my boss moved my desk to closer to the center of the room. And I’m not happy about this.

    Before I was at a desk tucked in the far corner where I could comfortably play online and mess around on my blogs with an early warning of who was coming so I could flip to a work screen. Yes, I know this isn’t very mature. I should be working. In the three years I sat at that desk, never had a problem.

    Now I am sitting where not only can my boss see my computer, so can everyone else walking by.

    Total bummer.

    Things could be worse. This is major first world problem scenario.

    But there we have it folks.

    I just hope they don’t take my swing line red stapler (hehe).


  5. The Homelessness Discussion I Overheard at Work

    May 26, 2016 by Lady Unemployed


    I found this photo above five years ago. Seems more fitting for me now than five years ago.

    The thing is there is a homelessness problem near my job. Homeless camps, drug users, people have been photographed shooting up and having sex on sidewalks, people have had tents and camps on sidewalks in front of my building.

    So it isn’t great. And it makes me uncomfortable enough I did buy pepper spray to carry with me when I walked to my bus. And I would be a liar if I didn’t say I wish this crowd was somewhere else.

    But as I hear the owner of my company plead with city officials to fix the problem and groups organize to document the footage of what goes on around us, sometimes I feel sad about what all this sounds like.

    What made it worse and what made me want to blog about it was a discussion I overheard in the break room.

    I walked in to get coffee and I overheard with tones of disgust two coworkers talking about the surrounding problem.

    And I can’t remember the conversation verbatim but it left me feeling like we could apply that same discussion to a pest control discussion.

    “Some even have cell phones!” One woman said with disgust.

    I turned and said, “Oh I think shelters give those out or so I’ve heard.”

    The conversation died. But I thought…

    The homelessness we see are people just like us. Kids who have become adults who once had dreams and desires to become something that surely didn’t include shooting up on the street and digging through garbage cans. And I know it’s not as simple as that. Nothing is.

    I learned in college we are people first. These are people.

    And from what I’ve learned in my own situation of barely making ends meet things can go off track so badly. So I think as I walk down the street trying to get to work and ignore the obvious pain all around me….there but for the grace of God go I.

    I don’t want to judge my coworkers too harshly. I am not exactly striving to be part of the solution. I cross the street when I see tents surrounding the city block, look away when I see signs begging for money, shake my head sadly when I hear people asking for me change and I don’t exactly volunteer either.

    But I just wonder if we started talking about this problem differently what would change. If we started thinking of those who we see struggling the most as people first instead of as an insect infestation that must be gotten rid of.

    Just a thought I wanted to share.

  6. My Snobbish Decline to Someone Just Trying to Be Nice

    May 16, 2016 by Lady Unemployed

    I might be overthinking this whole thing. But to give you some background, I’ve gotten very strict about being gluten-free and unless I can assess the ingredients to a food item, I’m trying to be better about declining this. Not so easy at a job that has an onslaught of treats and birthdays coming in.  Also, add to this, I’m trying to stay away from artificial dyes too.

    Fun times right?

    So on my way to get fruit, I noticed the front desk person talking about a delivery for my department. Someone said, yup! This goes to this department. Being nice, I said, “Hey, I can take it!” So I did…

    I brought it upstairs, asked the people in my department if anyone knew of a gift they were expecting from this specific company. It was mostly mugs, jelly beans, and chocolate. The people in my department said no, but then some other guy from a different department says, “Oh that’s for us; we usually get gifts from this place.” So I go, “Oh! Okay! Here you go!”

    All he did was peer into the box, smile, and say, “Oh you guys can have it…” Something like that. But I instantly felt weird about it, because I realized, oh I totally took whatever was meant for them. So I go, “Oh no! I can’t eat this stuff any way, it has gluten in it!” [This was my attempt at being jokey’] A few of my coworkers from my department were saying, “Jelly beans don’t have gluten! Chocolate doesn’t have gluten!”

    Mostly, the guy wasn’t taking the box. He kept insisting we take it. I said, “No, that’s okay. [In a failing joking mode] This has red 40 in it! I don’t want it!” I know, I know. But the guy was NOT taking the box! This is like people waving each other on at a stop sign and no one going.

    So I feel like I sounded like a snobby bitch to this guy. Who probably thought, “Whoa, I was just trying to be nice!” I feel bad of course. And this will go under the category of awkwardly rude conversations on my part (like the time I told a coworker about my disliking of ranch dressing and she ended up being very offended as a result).

    Tell me about the time you were rude without intending too. Please. Quickly.


  7. I Now Feel Better About Worrying

    May 12, 2016 by Lady Unemployed

    Today I was worrying about my worrying. I feel like I worry WAY too much and I’m not entirely sure it’s all that good for me anymore.  But then I came upon this article with PureWow that talked about how worrying can actually be good for you – or at least be a sign that you are a smart person. Something like that. Anyways, you can read about it here.

    I don’t know how true this is entirely, but I’m feeling pretty good about it. So as I worry about things related to my job, or my finances, or the future, or family stuff, I’ll feel good in knowing that I’m making myself smarter in the process. Who needs to do crossword puzzles when you can worry your way to a higher IQ?

  8. Yes, People Still Text and Drive

    May 10, 2016 by Lady Unemployed

    Here’s my observation of the day!

    Take a public bus for a while and it gives you a unique vantage point of people driving in cars. I’m curious and nosy by nature so I usually look into the car driving past (does that make me look like a creeper?) and twice this morning I saw two people texting as they drove.

    I think all the laws and all the warnings of the dangers of texting while driving made people more cautious of cops around them.

  9. Why Do Lunch Issues Make You Feel Like a Kid?

    May 9, 2016 by Lady Unemployed

    Here’s my random thought of the day…why do lunch issues make you feel like a kid all over again? On my bus into work this morning, my lunch started to leak. My container of very healthy peas and potatoes covered in balsamic vinegar and seasoned salt started leaking which got onto my lunch bag which I was holding. Now I smell like dinner.

    Things like this take me back to the days of lunch tables and desperately not wanting to be the kid with the smelly tuna or sticky jelly that got everywhere.

    Of course people have begun to sniff around me and it could only be the odor of my lunch.

  10. Monday Rant – Share Your Gripes!

    May 8, 2016 by Lady Unemployed

    Have you ever felt really stuck in your life? Like no going forward kind of stuck? An eerie stillness has clouded my life and I have no idea what to do about it.

    Anyways, that’s a hint where my gripes are coming from today. Not to mention I don’t like Mondays as a rule so there’s that.

    So what about you? I would like to see if I can breathe life into my blog again so share in the comments what is bugging you and I’ll gripe right along with you!