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Are You Telling Your Job You Want to Quit (Without Saying a Word)?

March 15, 2013 by Lady Unemployed

It goes without saying I’m unhappy at my present job. Lately, it’s gotten worst. I feel like I’m being told about “mistakes” that aren’t really mistakes, but me doing my job.  As in, I’m doing things that I’m suddenly not allowed to do, and I’m being told by people who never had a problem with me before.

Not to mention, I’ve gotten in trouble recently, and I have a suspicion about which people (i.e. my difficult coworker) are involved.


The funny thing is I am ready to go. My mom commented to me recently, “You know, you aren’t having an easy time at this job, but you don’t act stressed.”  And my mom is right. I’m not stressed. Sure, I rant on here, but this is mostly virtual therapy for me.

Finally this morning, I figured out why.

It’s because I’m not willing to fight for this job.  And oddly, now I have even better reason not to.

Ladies and gentleman, I have two interviews next week – for two different jobs. The odds are in my favor that yes, I am getting out of this job.

Celebrations of Light Finale 2007

Mini Celebration About My Interviews

But I had a thought…

…is it possible to give off signals to your employer that you are ready to quit, before you even quit?

I did a little research and apparently there are signs you may be giving off that shows you are getting ready (or really really want) to leave.

1) You’re making mistakes.

Since I started, I’ve been told about the earth shattering mistakes I’ve been making, so it’s not a new thing for me to hear about mistakes. But maybe I’m making more than usual because I’m mentally already gone. Or maybe my coworkers are assh*les?

Either way, be wary of the mistakes you are making, because according to, you may be giving off signals to your coworkers that you are losing your focus on your job.

2) Coming in late/leaving early.

I don’t leave early, but I admittedly come in late on occasion. Recently, though, it’s been a lot more common. Apparently, this is a sign that you are either preparing to leave or want to leave. Not to mention, I’m fully aware this is a problem for a lot of employers and could get me fired by coming in late all the time. So, I know, fix it up Lady (Un)Employed.

3) You get the Sunday night blues/depression.

This happens to me really regularly. In fact, I have a heavy feeling of dread at around 9:00 pm Sunday, and even earlier if my week before has been really bad. In fact, Monday through Thursday, I pretty much wake up each morning with a sick dread feeling.  While I know every job has its problems, I want to wake up in the morning without that feeling. Which may or may not have something do with problem # 2  I mentioned before.

But if you feel dread when you go in, each day every day you have to work, you may have a problem on your hands.

4) You start taking away personal items.

Okay, I haven’t done this at my present job (yet), but I have been at a job before, where things were going really, really badly and I started to prepare myself by taking home some of my personal items. Well, if that sounds like what you’ve done, you may try to leave a personal photograph or two, otherwise you’re telling your boss that you don’t plan on staying long.

5) You’ve added (a lot) new LinkedIn contacts.

Okay, in my defense, I’ve only added new LinkedIn contacts because I’m trying to help my brother (and my mom actually) find work. I figure if I can get a job lead or two via a direct contact, I’d send it their way. But if you happen to be connected to a coworker (like I am), be careful about who (and how many) you connect to, because you may be telling them, you are getting ready to leave.

Although, I will admit that I reason this all out by telling myself that the coworker I’m connected to, never seems to show recent activity on LinkedIn anyways.

So, if you are unhappy at your job and you’ve already taken steps to try and get out of that job, make sure you cover your ass, because that last thing you want is to get fired before you can quit.

Have you ever given signals that you want to leave your job? What were they? 


  1. Earle Muck says:

    Can you get fired for wanting to leave though? Surely they would have to demonstrate that you are not meeting the expectations of the role first.

    This is the problem with so many companies today. The expectation is for ridiculously above and beyond the actual parameters of the role. Employees then become disenchanted and work to rule – a thorn in the side of managers but it technically makes it difficult to manage out if the business as the requirements (as in the minimum) are being met.

    I always tell my people that I want to know whenever they are looking elsewhere, in return I promise that I don’t use this to prejudice my decisions. It establishes trust, allows for future planning and gives an insight as to what the person thinks may be better.

    From there you may be able to change things for mutual benefit. So much attention these days on the cost of attracting customers. Companies need to get serious about the cost of employee turnover.

    I say give off these signals and any manager worth their salt should be having a non threatening chat with you about how you are feeling.

    • I think this is a sign you are a fantastic manager. Personally speaking, my boss is extremely passive and delegates the job duties and roles of a manager to other people. There is a trickle down quality to her management so much so is that the only time she “manages” me directly is when I need to take time off, or if there is a problem with the online clock in system or when she sends an email to the group (which ends up only indirectly related to me). I’d say I’d love to have you as a manager!

  2. Marianne S. says:

    What a great post! If I worked, my bosses would surely think I wanted to leave! lol

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  3. Joyce says:

    I’d be extra careful about what you write on the internet. I understand how you feel; however, posts like these have gotten a lot of folks into hot water.

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