May 12, 2016 by Lady Unemployed
Today I was worrying about my worrying. I feel like I worry WAY too much and I’m not entirely sure it’s all that good for me anymore. But then I came upon this article with PureWow that talked about how worrying can actually be good for you – or at least be a sign that you are a smart person. Something like that. Anyways, you can read about it here.
I don’t know how true this is entirely, but I’m feeling pretty good about it. So as I worry about things related to my job, or my finances, or the future, or family stuff, I’ll feel good in knowing that I’m making myself smarter in the process. Who needs to do crossword puzzles when you can worry your way to a higher IQ?
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May 30, 2015 by Lady Unemployed
The strangest feeling came over me tonight that stopped me in my tracks. Instead of going to the grocery store, we ordered pizza. We need stuff tomorrow, of course, but tonight just didn’t feel right.
Maybe it was the change in weather? Maybe it was the result of a feeling a bit off this week in general?
But I answered the call of intuition. I couldn’t bring myself to go to the store. I embraced my inner hermit and stayed inside all day.
It’s not like this is the first time I’ve listened to my gut feeling. Usually when you do, at least in my experience, you don’t often get this big resounding reason why you were right to do so. But the times I haven’t listened…that’s when I realize I should have.
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October 8, 2013 by Lady Unemployed
When I first started the job I had now, I sat next to someone who wore headphones while she worked and made no effort to speak to me. Not to mention, the people in my department made no effort to speak to me or make conversation when I first started and they were situated on the other side of the room. I didn’t feel welcome and not too long after I started was I criticized and hammered about my mistakes. I can tell you I’m not the only one who felt this way because a guy who started a couple of months after me experienced the very same welcoming – ignoring and awful mean criticism about his mistakes.
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September 24, 2013 by Lady Unemployed
As the days fade in and out and one blends into another, I’m beginning to realize that this daily grind deal is not for me.
What does that mean for my future? I’m not sure and I’m not sure how to break out of it.
Am I trying? I’m not sure about that either because I don’t know what I’m trying for. I do know that I want to be a writer and while I can’t imagine writing full time right now, it doesn’t mean it won’t happen for me in the future.
In the meantime, I have to find some type of meaning to this daily grind otherwise the summer blues will turn into the winter blues will turn into me being restless as all get out and not being a very good worker (like now, I should be working, but I’m writing this).
Category Big Picture | Tags: Lesson Learned,Trying My Best | 5 Comments
March 15, 2013 by Lady Unemployed
It goes without saying I’m unhappy at my present job. Lately, it’s gotten worst. I feel like I’m being told about “mistakes” that aren’t really mistakes, but me doing my job. As in, I’m doing things that I’m suddenly not allowed to do, and I’m being told by people who never had a problem with me before.
Not to mention, I’ve gotten in trouble recently, and I have a suspicion about which people (i.e. my difficult coworker) are involved.
Category Employment Status Update | Tags: Lesson Learned,Quitting Your Job,Unhappy at Work | 6 Comments
January 23, 2013 by Lady Unemployed
It’s funny. Last week my company held a meeting about the importance of trust within a department.
I clearly struggled to avoid rolling my eyes during this meeting. These days I wouldn’t trust my coworkers to spit on me if I caught on fire.
But I asked myself…have I ever trusted coworkers? What does trust mean?
I do trust my family. I trust that they will not purposely hurt me. That if they do hurt my feelings, that it was not intentional. That they would not want to purposely hurt me, embarrass, humiliate, undermine me. That I can trust them with my wishes, dreams, feelings. To me, that is trust.
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January 16, 2013 by Lady Unemployed
This lesson is a tough one for me.
I struggle with being a people pleaser, so whenever I ignore a wrongdoing (even if it is just me believing it), I feel like that is one step backwards away from my personal growth. Yet, this struggle is why I can be (between you and me) a bit difficult to work with at times.
Yesterday at work there was an instance where I felt certain that I was getting blamed for a mistake I know I didn’t do. It was only partially my fault, at least. The other person just never responded to me (I do feel I needed to follow through but didn’t). Yet, the other person who never responded was the one who pointed fingers. Worse yet, I was told my “mistake” by my difficult coworker. So I had no chance of explaining my perception and what happened to anyone who was actually involved. Worse is the fact the person who was involved, was out that day I was told.
Category Career, Office Politics | Tags: Lesson Learned | 2 Comments
January 10, 2013 by Lady Unemployed
I know that in this economy, you are lucky to have anything. That we should take anything, including taking grief at work no matter what, because few people will have sympathy for you if you just leave.
But is that the healthiest thing to do? Should we stick it out whether or not we are unhappy? Is that any way to live our lives?
This question was rolling around in my brain as I was thinking about my own situation. So much time can go by without anything changing and unhappiness setting in like a heavy weight.
Category Career | Tags: Lesson Learned,stress | 6 Comments
December 6, 2012 by Lady Unemployed
You know that moment when you are trying to merge onto a major thoroughfare and it is really, really bad traffic? And it’s almost impossible to get in between any of the cars and they are just backed up together, refusing to let you in or ahead?
Work is a little like that. You have to really fight to merge into the lane of success (corny metaphor, I know, but it was calling for that).
I realized that today when my difficult coworker (her nick name is a work in progress) – stayed home for the third day in a row.
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December 5, 2012 by Lady Unemployed
Whether it’s a job, a love interest, or any opportunity of some kind, we want to have it and we want it now. And I know I’ve always heard the philosphy, “Squeaky wheel gets the grease.” This is usually the motto I go by when I’m pursuing something (or someone).
But there comes a point where the wheel starts to squeak just too damn much and it becomes easier to replace the whole thing and get rid of it.
While I’ve already learned the hard way with the opposite sex that it isn’t always good to be so aggressive, I’m beginning to wonder if the same policy can apply to work scenarios.
At least, that’s what I’ve wondered lately.
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