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  1. Unemployment and Feeling Like I’m Doing My Best

    July 19, 2012 by Lady Unemployed

    hope

    Apparently hope is that way. So, that’s where I’m going.

    Overall this has not been an easy week. I had several ups and downs and two days in a row so  far I ended up in tears, I snapped at family members, and remained too long in my “Eoyore” mood.

    But instead of writing about all of that, I decided to write about something positive for once (I know, weird huh?).

    Today,  I feel like I have truly done my best (hush to the person in the back that is about to say otherwise).

    I’ll say it again: I have done my best today to find a job.

    Now, someone can say that unless I am applying to every job I see, even if includes licking the floor clean, it obviously isn’t enough, but today I am standing up to say otherwise.

    did do my best today. Some days I feel otherwise. But today? I do feel pretty good.

    Here’s why:

    1) I looked for (and applied to) any job I was qualified for.

    I am not the type to just look for jobs that would give me a high paying salary. I am looking at all possibilities. And today, I did just that. And you know what? That isn’t any different on the other days I’m looking for a job. I’m  not being picky.

     2) Networking, networking, networking.

    I followed up on my networking people and reached out to some new people. I even followed up on an offer for job search help from someone I’m following on Twitter.

    3) Placement Agencies

    I also contacted the placement agency I spoke with a few weeks ago again. I resent my resume and I waiting to find out about job leads.

    …..still waiting. Yup, still……..waiting. Oh, right, the blog post.

    4) Reached out to talk shows.

    Alright you may think I’m kidding about this one, but didn’t I say I was trying anything? I am literally trying anything. And I did just that. I submitted a video to Dr. Phil about helping me find a job. Don’t think I’m kidding about that one, either.

    And if I end up on television, you guys will be the first to know.

    5) Um…not sure about number five.

    Okay I didn’t want to end this with a four, because no one makes a list with just four points. But aside from following through with my temptation to leave my resume in Barnes and Noble (I’m close though), and holding a sign board as I walk through the mall asking, “Are you hiring?” I am doing everything I can.

    And if I can say that statement every day and mean it, than I am feeling pretty damn good about myself.


  2. The Worst Networking Advice I Ever Received

    July 12, 2012 by Lady Unemployed

    I’ve reached a point of my unemployment where I feel like I am really pulling out all the stops.

    Stop Sign

    See? There’s one of my stops right there.

    I am doing everything I can to find a secure, full time position for myself. And this includes networking. I have been actively using LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter, direct email contacts, etc. You name it. I have tried it.

    Now, what I have learned about networking is this –

    It is a total crap shoot. And I’m not even sure what that expression means. But it’s a crap shoot.

    Let’s first categorize the types of responses I am getting. Oh and by the way, as a warning, this post will be much longer than usual.

    No Response

    i can't hear you!

    This network person will pretend I haven’t written.

    This is a semi-common response. I will just not hear from the person. Straight up, no explanation, not even a brush off. Nothing. Nada. Zilch.

    Which is actually not the worst experience with networking I have had so far. I’ll get to that.

    I’ll keep my eye out for you (or some variation of this).

     

    My eye

    This is someone keeping their eye out for me.

     

    This is a one liner response where they tell me that they will keep their eye out for me. This usually means I will never hear from this person again.

    Also, not the worst experience I’ve had so far.

    No Duh Advice Givers

    There ARE Dumb Statements

    Need I say more?

    Now, don’t get me wrong. I do love advice. I love getting the input of other people’s experiences or outlook. I love hearing about what worked for someone else and what didn’t. Really! And I’m not being sarcastic about this – I do mean it. This is everything to a job seeker like me. And a lot of the advice I have received (such as many of you awesome advice givers that leave me comments) I have followed through with and appreciated.

    But recently someone asked me, “Have you tried a placement agency?”

    This is not earth shattering advice people.

    I have tried placement agencies. I didn’t hear back from them. This isn’t to say I will never try again. But I hate advice like this. It isn’t giving me insight. It’s another brush off statement. It’s the same advice along the lines of, “Do you look for jobs on the Internet?”

    Worst. Advice. Ever.

    Today I received the worst advice on networking that I have heard in my entire life.

    So, there was a company I want to work at. This company has a lot of people working there and a LOT of competition for the jobs. I scoured the Internet to find out who I knew that worked at this company or knew someone who did.

    Lo and behold…

    I found someone!  I found a guy that I went to high school with that knows people who work here.

    I contacted him. I explained the situation and told him about the job I applied for. I asked if he could talk to one of the people he knew who worked there to put in a good word for me.

    And here is what he said, “Umm…are you saying you know someone who works there and you want me to talk to them?

    Oh, and we are on Facebook chat by the way. Another note, this is also a guy that I have kept in touch with since we graduated. So he isn’t a total stranger.

    Me: “Oh I wish I knew someone at “that company.” I was hoping someone you knew could put in a good word for me to hr.” (I won’t reveal the company I applied to just to protect their identity.)

    Him: “Then meet someone who works there!”

    Are you kidding me? 

    Me: “Wow. Thanks. I haven’t thought of that.” (Yes, I’m being a smart ass by this point. Obviously this won’t go anywhere.)

    Him: “Really? You should do it! Your cute. Hang out in a bar in the area and be social about it. You’ll meet people!”

    Him again: “Works for me and most of the people in tech industry are men!”

    Wow.

    Okay, so this ends the conversation.

    Let me be clear. Yes, I am single. No, I’m not dating anyone right now. And really that isn’t priority number one right now. Priority is a job. And at any point in the conversation did I even mention dating? Nope. Not at all. And this is not the type of guy I talk about dating with. And aside from the occasional comments on Facebook about guys I think are cute or whatever, I don’t talk about dating on Facebook (I’m private like that).

    And so his advice to me was basically this, “Your skills don’t matter. And since you’re a woman whom I have no respect for, I’m telling you to f*ck your way to the top.”

    Sorry to be crude, but yes I heard it that way.

    And maybe he didn’t mean it quite like that, but it was not good advice. The last thing on most men’s mind when they meet a woman at a bar is, “Oh! How can I help get this bright intelligent woman a job at my company?”

    So, this is it for my friendship with this guy. On an entirely different note, I did have a couple of pretty cool network people come through for me on possible job leads, so I will see how all of that plays out.